Juggling in 3D 364: Life has no undo button
Diane writes:"There is an American television programme called, "My name is Earl" which is about a man who in middle age decides to right all the wrongs he has done in his life. He writes a list of all the people he has harmed in some way and then sets out to meet them and put things right. Each week the programme tells another story about Earl making amends. It is always difficult for him to act in the way he wants to and often people are unwilling to accept what he is trying to do. Occasionally people are grateful or pleased with what he is trying to do.
Stuff happens in life which we don't always handle well. How many times do you come in after work churning inside about something you have said or done which you now wish you could go back and do differently? Life really should have an undo button which enables us to recapture those difficult or embarassing moments and have another go at them. Sadly, there is no undo button, we cannot go back, but we can use that embarassing or difficult experience in order to move forward. We can pause and reflect on the following questions:
- What could I have done differently?
- What do I need to do now to ensure I do not make the same mistake again?
- What am I learning about myself from that experience?
- What needs to be fed back to my manager / the wider organisation?
- What can I do to move forward in the relationship / relationships my actions have damaged?
More questions might occur to you as you reflect on the experience you have had.
The next step is very important. Once we have suffered the pain of messing up, reflected on what happened and used that reflection to change the way we behave,we must let go of the embarrassing or painful experience. We have to get over it! Life has no undo button. We can never go back, but we can move forward a wiser person."
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